Supporting The Dying and Their Families
Through Their Most Sacred Transition
The Gift of Caring For Our Own Dying and Dead
The single most prevalent fear for humans is death. The single most healing act available to humans is love. In caring for our own dying and dead, we love. As an act of love, we are able to transform our overwhelming fear into something that fills our hearts with awe and our eyes with beauty.
The Gift of Learning From Our Dead
Our dead are offering us teaching, and healing. They teach of the cyclical, fleeting nature of life. They teach an appreciation of life and provide an experience for the most profound love as we experience their loss. They teach as we sit vigil, as we witness their departure. They provide us with an opportunity to act out of our most loving self.
The Gift of Serving the Families of the Dead
I will guide and encourage you and your family to carry out the heart’s desire to care for your beloved family member. I offer truth in dispelling the misunderstandings that surround death care. I will give you and your family guideposts on an unfamiliar path.
The Gift of Serving Love
All that I do, I do in the name of love as I guide and encourage you and your family in the care for your dying or deceased loved one. I honour and acknowledge the love that connects you and best prepares you to escort your loved one out of this life. I stand by the premise that no one can better tend to your departed than you who have known and loved them.
The Gift of Serving the Dead
I will guide your family in honouring the vessel, the body of your beloved. You will disturb it as little as possible. You will tend to it with respect, and as if it is still inhabited by your loved one. You and your family will surround it in gentle light and with tokens of your love.
The Gift of Green Burial
A Mindful Death Doula Services stands for a return to simplicity in funeral care, negating the need for the never-ending consumption of hard materials to bury in the earth—the concrete liners, the formaldehyde, the steel, the rare hardwood from the rain forest—and the fossil fuels consumed for cremation. It is my belief that we actually give something back to the earth when we are buried in it directly.
These are the highest of gifts that the dead can bestow. Moreover, to be present to those gifts, we need to be by their side and involved in their care—to allow their vitality, wisdom and love into our hearts. We need to bring death care back into the home, where it began, and to our way of thinking, where it belongs. If we send our dead off to an institutional setting, then those that love them best are not involved in their care, and we cannot bear witness to the transformation.
I understand that caring for our dead is not for everyone, but I am compelled by my mission and belief that we will be stronger for it.
When you and your family are ready to move forward, I will be there to guide you through what may be some of the most meaningful and loving tasks you will ever do for your loved one. I will support you and your family as you make those difficult and heartfelt decisions about how you want to care for and honour your loved one through this process. I will be there to share my knowledge of post-death body care, as well as provide resources for other services you may need, such as grief support, funeral directors, or crematoriums. I will be there for you and your family.